A lot said, I rediscovered my sexual self
But some of the women had more than one partner; some had what they called f… buddies’, they didn’t want the hassle of a relationship but were still very sexual. ‘ They’d had long-term relationships where the sex was never about them, or they’d got caught up in the baby thing and running a house.
When one of my newly lovestruck older friends, a widow, tells me over lunch, You don’t know what good sex is until you’re 70, I can’t help thinking she’s either had a lot of bad sex until now or a treat lies in store at 70.
Post-menopause is not the doom and gloom everybody necessarily claims, Malta says. It is for some women but for a lot it isn’t. ‘ A lot of them discover for the first time that they can actually pleasure themselves. Some women said to me, I’d never had an orgasm in my life until I got divorced and found a new partner.’
And of course, the sexual possibilities can be more limited for women
Other couples are happy to close the book on that chapter.
